That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in equal right….for EVERYONE, not just women. Feminists today make everything about them and place all the blame on men, even if some of it should be shared. So, here are my reasons why I am not a feminist.
1. As much as I believe in that everyone should be able to wear what they want without having to worry about being attacked, I don’t think they should. Do you have so little respect for yourself that you feel the need to wear miniskirts and shirts that accentuate the goods? Cover it up. Not so men aren’t tempted to rape you, but so that you show them that you have respect for your body and your reputation. Tongues will wag about the office slut when she walks in in a tight dress. Tongues will always wag when a man walks in in whatever he has that’s sexy to attract his female boss (yes they do exist as much as you would like everyone else believe that they don’t).
2. You not getting that CEO job over the male competition does not necessarily mean you were disqualified based on your sex. I have worked for women who were sexist towards other women. I’ve also worked for men who valued everything I did at work because I did it well. Sure, there are some men who will choose a man over another woman because he’s a man, but I think we’re far enough is society that most men don’t do that. However, I would like to add that I’m sure some men feel more comfortable with hiring a man over a woman because so many women have falsely claimed sexual harassment. Why aren’t men screaming sexual harassment? Because they would be laughed at, that’s why. I’m not going to lie, I drool over good looking men just like men drool over good looking women. That’s called human nature. So believe me when I say men get sexually harassed, and even raped, like women do.
3. Please never say this again: “I cover up/put my keys between my fingers/carry pepper spray/never walk alone because it’s not if I get attacked, but when.” How many of you have actually been attacked? Really? I have done some of those things myself, don’t get me wrong. But I don’t do it because I’m positive I’m going to be attacked, but I do it because there are some bat-shit crazy people out there. Men and women! Don’t believe me? Go to Walmart at midnight. Living in fear is no way to live. And the crazy people can smell fear. Be cautious, but don’t be so scared that you believe that you’ll get attacked every time you go to your mailbox in your pajamas. Be realistic people.
4. I’m sorry if you ‘friendzoning’ a man makes you think you’ve increased his sense of entitlement and thereby increase your chances of threat. Women have been friendzoned much longer than men. Go ahead and think about the first boy that you ever liked. Did he like you back? Probably not. Did your sense of entitlement increase? Probably not. Same goes for men. They’ll feel rejected and embarrassed, sure, but then I’m sure they’ll play it off and just go one with their day, without thinking about how much more entitled they are now. Self entitlement is something that people grow up with. If the parents aren’t stern with their no’s or let the child govern the house, then the child grows up into an adult who thinks that they are entitled to everything. This whole next generation of kids coming out of high school are living proof of that. Fact, women whine about that stuff more than men. Go check your Facebook. If you have a teen friend on there, I’m sure at some point they’ve complained about how it’s totally unfair that their parents won’t let them go to the concert they paid for with their parents money because they failed science class.
5. Little boys will pull a girls hair if he likes her because little boys don’t know how to express that kind of emotion any other way! That comes with the male package. As they grow older and understand how things work a little better, then no, they shouldn’t be doing that kind of stuff. But if a girl is raised right, she’ll understand that if an older boy, or man, abuses you in any way to tell someone. If the girl is raised right, she’ll not that it won’t matter if he likes you or not, he shouldn’t be doing that. I reiterate, if parents actually parented their children, then some of this crap wouldn’t be happen.
6. Feminists fight for a woman’s right to say anything without persecution. Noble thing to fight for. But I feel like I can’t talk to a feminist without getting attacked by other women. How is that fighting for my right to say anything? I think the #BanBossy fight is dumb. There. I said it. I tell my daughter to stop being bossy because she likes to tell me what to do, and that just don’t fly here. If she’s telling other children what to do, I’ll tell her not to tell people what to do. Don’t get your panties in a bunch, I say the same thing to my boyfriend’s nephew. You just shouldn’t ever tell people what to do. Unless you get paid for it.
7. I feel singled out and hated on because I have always dreamed of being a stay at home mom with a husband and a house. Why do you feel like you have to convince me that I’d be happier with a corporate job while my husband stays at home? That’s not what I want. Ever. I want to watch my children grow and I want to be the one that teaches them things. I want to be a full time mother, not one who only gets to see her kids a few hours every day she works. That doesn’t sound like happiness to me. If it does for you, then go for it. But don’t make me feel less for my decision because it’s not what you would choose.
8. Male or female, take a self defense class. There are crazies out there people! And they do attack. Some men hit women because most women don’t hit back. It’s in our nature to nurture, not fight. The men who hit men are doing it because that’s a challenge. They’re usually fine with each other afterwards too. Women also hit men. I watched this video a few weeks ago of this teenage girl beating on this fat boy on a school bus. Nobody else got involved in the fight or even stood up for the boy until he retaliated and hit her back. Why? She deserved to be hit back because she was beating on someone else for not reason. And I really mean beating. The kid most likely had several large bruises from this girl. He should have stood up to her. But as soon as he did, suddenly everyone else had to come to her rescue. Women are not weak. Feminists toot that horn all day long. And they’re right. We are not weak. We are strong. So stop acting like the victim if you’re the one who started the conflict in the first place.
9. Men are becoming more afraid to be men. And this is not just from women, it’s from practically everyone. Sometimes men just need to beat each other up to get over a fight. I’ve seen best friends pummel each other and then throw jokes around ten minutes later. Men are naturally aggressive. As long as they’re taught the rights and wrongs of how to release the aggression properly, there shouldn’t be any problems. But little boys are being taught that they aren’t allowed to be little boys anymore at all! People have become so afraid of what a male has the potential to do (and yes, the potential can be very scary), that they’re trying to turn them into what women naturally are. I just don’t think it’s going to work and we’re going to end up seeing a lot of stories about boys exploding and killing people.
10. If your daughter doesn’t like the pink Legos, THEN DON’T BUY HER THE DAMN PINK LEGOS! Why can’t people just realize that? The only think Lego did when they added the more feminine sets to their collection is that they’ve just now broadened their sales. I would have loved to have pink Legos as a kid, in addition to the regular ones as well. You can pretty much get Legos in any color you want now anyways, don’t nit pick something insignificant like that. If you’re going to go after toys, go after how expensive they are. Now that’s ridiculous.
11. Since when was I suddenly not allowed to want to lose weight? Yes I want to lose weight for most of the conventional reasons. I want to look good and feel comfortable in those cute clothes I see other girls wearing. But I want to lose weight to be healthy and so that I can keep up with my daughter. It’s not for a man and anyone who changes anything about themselves for another person needs to rethink the relationship and look into themselves to find out the real reason they feel they need to change to please someone else. It’s not healthy. Regardless if your male or female.
Bonus points! (the following points are reactions to the tweets from these two site: here and here)
* You should always be cautious that you could be attacked in a dark, lonely parking lot at night. That’s called common sense and survival of the fittest. But don’t expect it.
* Women aren’t encouraged as much to explore their sexuality because they get pregnant. Easily.
* Boys who are raised right are taught how to control their impulses. I’d like to think that’s the majority of the male population.
* Men will honk at you. Don’t take it so personal. While it shouldn’t be normal, it won’t go away. Those men are pigs. Flip them the bird and move on with your life.
* Other than my psycho ex, no one has ever threatened me with rape or death. Yes I have a psycho male ex. There are plenty of men who have psycho female exes too. Overly attached girlfriend anyone?
* To the girl who was told it was her problem because a male scared her, pick a different church. But be warned, some people just don’t know how to respond to something like that. I don’t even know what I would tell you. Other than if you didn’t know the guy then maybe kick them in the family jewels next time. If you do know him, tell him how it made you feel. If he laughs at you then maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship.
* If people think it’s always a girls fault for either being rejected or doing the rejecting, then they’re just rude. And dumb. Go with dumb. It is not conventional wisdom. In either situation no has ever asked me, “How come you didn’t go out with the reclusive, stinky, weirdo?” That would be a dumb question and they know that.
* No you shouldn’t change who you are to avoid sexual violence, but you should use your head and the thing that rattles inside of it. Don’t purposely put yourself in a bad situation. It really is that simple. No, that’s not even usually how it happens but you also need to realize that some people are just sick and will do whatever they want to satisfy their needs. That goes back to that survival of the fittest thing. There are religious figures who touch children. There are female teachers who rape teen boys. And there are some men who rape women. Some people are just sick.
It all comes down to this: don’t be stupid, use your head, and don’t place blame on a gender as a whole. It’s not feasible. Not every man is going to rape a woman. Not every woman is going to fall victim to a man like this. Not every man is going to be good and honest. And not every woman is going to be innocent.
We need to stop generalizing people as a whole, and start realizing that everyone is their own individual self. Don’t place blame on a random man on the street because you were once abused by someone else. It’s not that guys fault at all. Everyone just needs to stop with their feminist movement and their gay rights and whatnot and just get together and agree to love each other unconditionally and realize that, while no one is perfect, everyone has the right to be who they are. And please, if you see anyone who needs any kind of help, help them. Don’t stand by. Seeing a questionable video on YouTube that sounds like a future killing spree? Alert someone to it. See a meek woman with a bruised eye walking with a dominant man (they’re easy to spot), help her! She needs help. Stop hating and start loving.
And now I feel like a hippie from the 60’s. Peace man.
As for the tragedy that resulted in this #YesAllWomen campaign, stop ignoring the fact that 4 of the 6 people that were killed were men. This guy was wrong in the head. Very wrong in the head. This was not just about women. This was about people. Six people died because of him. Mourn for all of them as their individual selves. Don’t try to make it look like only women were hurt. None of them saw this coming. None. Mourn for them and be thankful the number wasn’t higher. Don’t put any focus on the killer at all, but realize that he was a sick coward who took his own life because he knew what they would do to him in prison.
Just be happy in your life. Don’t bring down others.